i love my kids.....im pretty sure that goes without saying.....but they are pretty cool all the way around....and it amazes me when i look at them and realize not only how different they all are, but how incredible they are at rocking their individuality....
this picture kind of sums it up.....jake is a responsible character, luke is 100% okay with himself just like he is, and josh is my vibrant animal lover.
and they all do nothing but bring the sunshine....even when they dont.
we are going thru a phase at home where i am working on making the boys realize the big picture ramifications of their actions.....it seems like a pretty obvious thing, but kids are often so focused on what is right in front of them (like adults) that they dont see what is going on around them.
jake is my shining example right now- he has had a week of AP tests, along with the rest of his normal stuff....he is worn out mentally and just not seeing the big deal in skipping the warrior dash....he overcommitted and underorganized - and was trying his best to blow it off...normally that might not be a biggie....HOWEVER, this just happens to be a weekend following ANOTHER weekend where he was overcommitted and skipped luke's birthday extravaganza scavenger hunt.....and both of these events were things luke was counting on jake for. i am truly blessed that my boys are friends....but like friends do, they sometimes take each other for granted....luke was SUPER disappointed that the warrior dash was falling thru, and jake was both missing luke's feelings about it and kind of ignoring the fact that i paid $65 for his registration....
on another day, in another frame of mind, i let it go....jake DOES have a lot on his plate....but if he is anything like me, he will ALWAYS have too much to do.....normally these optional things are NOT such a big deal.....but its the insidious negative habit that i'm taking objection to at the moment....
Wisdom is knowing what to do next; virtue is doing it. ~David Star Jordan
so, being the AWESOME mom that i am, i MADE him run it....at 8am this morning....before he had to drive to bowie to ref 5 lacrosse games. because to me, the bigger lesson here is that you follow thru....there's also a smaller lesson waiting in the wings on utilizing a google calendar so that you are NOT overcommitted....but that's for later.
here we are at 10 at night, and i'm feeling very guilty, because jake rolled in about an hour ago, clearly exhausted and still a little muddy. which of course stirs the old "wow are you mean" feelings....but i honestly think it was a good decision.....hopefully next time i ask him if he wants me to buy him a ticket for something, he will think to look at his calendar (and yes, he has one).....and hopefully he will recognize that his brothers COUNT on him to keep his word. luke also had a super long day today - he volunteered to coach 2 games in bowie when another coach backed out....and i can guarantee he would not have had quite as good an attitude about it if they had not done the run....the fact that jake stepped up for him not only made him happy, but showed that his brother does value his feelings........and i'm so proud of both of them.
that's it - that's all the saturday night wisdom i have.....and its not really wisdom - just kind of an out loud reflection. but i wanted to keep the blog ball rolling :) kris and i are doing the warrior dash tomorrow.....so i'm sure THAT will make for not only some fun pics, but also some great perspective when im the out of shape one in my group!!! can't wait!
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